Hi painter, I just meant stop posting on newcomers and maybe join JKSD. I really find peace with the interactive journaling. It is hard for me to read some of the newer posts. I relive those feelings when I read some of it. I also don't believe in forgiving infidelity in 99.5 % of the cases, so im not much help with advise.
I have been having a really hard time reading accounts from male posters who are so forgiving and supportive of their wives who have Betrayed them in some of the worst ways. I can't help but think, " what was really so bad about me, that my husband left ? " I have my issues, but in all honesty nothing that warranted a divorce and abandonment the way that STBX did it. I mean come on...to walk away the way he did is Jerry Spinger material. There's a lot of indication of infidelity. It's hard to come to terms that it's my life!
Regarding communication, I needed someone to communicate with me directly and honestly. I needed to voice my complaints in a different way, that was less critical and perhaps not emotionally charged. We needed to work together as a team unit.
