Maybe also finding someone who has a similary *style* of negotiating differences. I remember saying to my H before we got married that 'if we run into problems down the road, I think it will be due to you not standing up for yourself'. And that is exactly what happened.
His way of resolving differences is to pretend nothing is wrong. Mine is to have a detached, unemotional discussion. (OW is also great at pretending, it seems - to the degree that H is 'disturbed' by it. The rug in the middle of that living room must be bulging! But that was what he wanted now, so that's what he got.)
I could probably have been less gullible when I married H. I should have been able to predict that someone who is getting married for the 5th time, is not great at committment.
I hope you don't stop posting!
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
