Wonka, I will think about what you are suggesting, I have been fully engaged with my W and my M, im just not sure if I want to participate in this parade / barbecue. It's not at her station, so it's unlikely many of the people from her station will be there for me to meet, and there aren't that many events like this (4 or 5 a year). I will consider what you are saying, maybe I'll bring son and go for a short while to show support, but I don't want to portray that I'm happy about my W involvement.
I assure you I have no fear of being around OM, other than the possibility of my anger flaring up, but I have no doubt I'm the better person (and much stronger person).
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized