Wow, chippie, you have two very respected veterans here really trying to understand the root cause of these issues and help you. I would suggest that you provide as much detail information as you can, it will help them gain insight and provide you with the best recommendations in moving forward.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized