What should I be Doing (piecing 6)

[Coconut]

SH, nice to hear from you, I appreciate your support. To bad you didn't catch my whole sitch, it was one heck of a ride, I think my emotional swings made for a perfect what not to do...

So like I said, I'm ready to let the academy ride out, I've committed myself to that. Now I'm trying to figure out what that looks like for me, does that mean I'm willing to just back away and not interfere, or does that mean I am willing to fully support and participate..

Ok, so now that I've wrote that out I realize those are my two extreme options, and I need to figure out what middle ground looks like. My W volunteered for the 4th of July parade and to volunteer at the picnic.. But I'm not sure I want to be part of "extra curricular" activities she takes on, quite frankly an old friend of mine is having a 4th of July picnic at his house I'd much rather attend.

I really have considered just telling her I will not interfere with her finishing academy, but I will not be part of it (including her graduation ceremony).. But I think that would be me being weak and avoiding conflict... Now I'm thinking a better way to go will be to tell her that while I have backed off my need for her to leave the academy, I am not interested in participating in non essential functions. I think that will provide me the opportunity to support her in achieving this goal, but also allow me to make it clear that I do not believe her remaining there is the best option for our MR.

I will also give my S the invite to attend my buddies party. My W always says that one of the reasons she wants to finish the academy is to show S that you can achieve what you put your mind to, but my S couldn't care less about the academy. My S is a very very high achiever, both in sports and academics, and contrary to my W beliefs, he gains nothing from her being there, it actually annoys him. So I will give him the option to come with me, but my guess is he will pick his own option of hanging out with girlfriend.