How to rekindle love?

[Rose888]

JujuB, yes, I think my marriage might be at risk. I say "might" because H is generally a very loyal person, and even when he was his most detached and not yet committed to trying to reattach, he was conflicted about the right course of action.

I hear what you are saying about marriage being a commitment. I agree.

However, I gave lip service to that while failing to meet one of H's critical needs for 22 years. And he stuck with me and met MY needs all that time.

It's understandable that, finding himself emotionally detached, he would think that if he ever wanted a partner who desired him the way he wants to be desired, now is his chance to try to find that.

I think my libido would be less of a risk to the marriage if I had met H's needs better for the last two decades.