Working on me and letting it play out

[Coconut]

Nice job Cbt, sounds just like something I would of said, lol. Anyway, it's funny how when your no longer fighting for your life, when you don't feel like your whole world hangs in the balance and that a single comment or misstep could destroy everything, how when that's not happening you start to find yourself going back into old routines (almost taking things for granted).

Just a few weeks ago I would of done anything to have my W invite me to do something (even shopping that I despise), but now that things are leveling out I find myself having to kinda talk myself into wanting to go. I think part of that is my continuous effort to detach (which has come a long way), but the other part is falling back into the old me that just didn't mind time alone.

Anyway, I think putting a time frame on sharing a bedroom, or identifying what you both want first for that to happen, is a good idea. I think sharing the MBR, even without physical contact, goes a long way to building the emotional intamicy in a M.