Her recovery time will be longer because as well as having a hernia removed, she has had a full abdomiplasty operation (tummy tuck) as well. As you know, here in the UK, we enjoy free healthcare, but if you are having a procedure purely for cosmetic purposes, this has to be done privately and you have to pay.
Let me recap, my W is currently 'homeless' and is living in local authority housing, over which she has no choice in regard to location, housing type etc. I have no idea how she has financed this (she certainly didn't get any money from the sale of the house) and as she hasn't even told her family (she doesn't want to be judged) it hasn't come from that source. My SD says she is going to pay it monthly, so it must be on some sort of finance plan.
The selfishness is just astounding. No care for the kids, no care for how it affects anybody else, no care for the effect on SD (she has a life as well) and no knowledge of how she's going to cope. My SD told me that W told her a month ago. She didn't even care that SD would have had to 'lie' to me. She has been told she can't drive or lift anything heavier than 2lbs (a bag of sugar) in that time. She has had a drain fitted for the next few days as well.
I'm staying on this side of the board for now, even though it is now most certain she's in MLC. A mix of emotions really. My nice guy, H side, wants to go and care, but I can't. My sacked H side wants to lecture her on her stupidity, but I can't. I just have to get on with my dad H side.
Just what happens in the brain when one member of a successful marriage just flips and goes 'nuts'?
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
