Hi Huddy. Obviously the kids needed to be cared for It appears W is very clear of mind because she knew exactly how long recovery would take from the hernia. Even if it was keyhole your looking at 2 weeks and longer if done the old fashioned way. (( I had one and the doctors told me 4 weeks before I could drive )
It seems she knew SD would call you and you would step up to the plate and look after them
I too often look to some reason why they act as they do but often I come back to the one that they are just selfish.
Do what's best for you and your kids but please do get dragged into a ' poor confused W ' mindset
