I have spoken very briefly with my W today. She is very sore and has been told to go to bed for three weeks to let her wounds heal. I'm no surgeon, so for a 'tummy tuck', I'm not sure how extensive the wound is.
My W said she 'wasn't thinking' when she arranged the operation, but I now have to try and arrange an extra weeks holiday to look after the kids. My SD isn't confident of the task at hand, so I am going to have to re-arrange my week to accommodate the situation.
Now, whilst in strict DB rules I should just carry on with my life, eschewing the needs of my W, this is actually about the wellbeing of my children. My W is plainly not in an ideal frame of mind, nor physical shape, to look after them adequately. I am, therefore, taking charge. This does not mean I am taking care of my W (that will be her responsibility, with help from my SD).
In one sense, this seems really cold and against my nature, but she has got herself in to the situation and my priority is the children. I know it's a fine line, but I think I'm acting appropriately, but as always, I do welcome constructive feedback.
Privately, I still care very much for my W, but I feel that I cannot be a caring H at this time; I've been sacked - right?
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
