Detachment, anxiety and the end of limbo 2

[Sotto]

Hi lovely Phoebe, from what you post above I think it is a good plan to have a think about what is going on with your friend. There sounds to be a growing level of intimacy with a guy (who may well be attracted to you....because you are lovely :)) You have clearly outlined how this trip - if it happens - would need to work for you.

However, he's come to your home, you are eating out and cycling together - spending time together and sharing information about your situation. As you've said, you crave the physical contact with someone and I can see this easily reaching a tipping point into something more than friendship.

You are S for a while now (and he is already D?) But, you have had a traumatic time and whilst doing well, it is early days and does take a while. Most advice would be to wait for at least a year after D until dating and I think that during that time, building closer friendships with 'low risk' people is the best way to go.

This is JMHO of course Sweetie. What I would encourage you to do is google relationships and entanglements and have a read about the differences, asking yourself whether (given where you are currently at) you are in a place where a 'relationship' is possible.

Hope this helps my friend xx