Chapter 3. Let the detachment begin

[bigybiz]

OK: She shows up today to see the boys with all kinds of attitude about I'm trying to get her to do things my way, no matter what etc, etc. Which is kinda true. I'm not letting her do things her way. I stuck my ground - but did concede that I would be willing to find a new way of doing things - not hers not mine. Left it at that.

I take S15 to catch his ride to camp. I come back and she has changed all the sheets, vacuumed and cleaned the bathroom. I did not say a thing to her. I went about my business. As she was leaving with S10 for lunch, she mentioned the house work she did.

I said to her, I did notice and that was nice of her but unnecessary. She offered to the same amount of housework every Saturday because she thinks it lots of work and maybe I need the help. I was busy, so I told her we can speak about it later.

So everyone - what should I do? I don't want her thinking she is doing me any favours and I certainly can survive without her. I'm guessing she sees that and now maybe wanting to play some kind of game about it.

I will leave it alone. If she mentions it again, I'm thinking I will say. I don't expect you to do any of the work around her, but I appreciate it if you want to help.

Is that the right approach?

Let me know what you all think.