Hi Phoebe, I'm pleased to read about the frank email to your male friend. You were doing the big thing I took away from reading Codependent No More - asking the question 'what do I need to do to look after myself in this situation - and doing it. Plus, it was respectful and received well - great stuff.
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T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus