What should I be Doing (piecing 6)

[Coconut]

It's nice that Wonka stopped by to give you her counter-productive personal philosophies and non-solution oriented techniques (just wait it out and see what happens and try not to be so emotional because your wife is hurting and fragile) but it is my understanding that that really isn't consistent with the purpose of this forum:

And this is why I questioned your experience knowledge. I have to work through enough of my emotions in dealing with my sitch without someone bringing their emotions into my sitch for me to also have to deal with.

This is what I know, I know Wonka has read every word I've posted for the last two months, I know that she could see where my head was at, and I know she took her time to hit me with 2 x 4's to stop me from doing things that would have been detrimental to rebuilding my M. I know that someone that invested isn't going to intentionally tell me to do something that will hurt my M, and I'd rather someone who cares that much about my M give me the wrong advice, than someone who is not invested.

I am ok with giving me advice, and appreciate it even if I don't buy into it, but I am not ok with attacking of others because their advice is different. I don't think it is cool to attack others to make yourself look better.

For now, I'm letting things ride. If I met my W for the first time today, and she worked with an ex who she dated for three weeks and kissed a few times, I wouldn't ask her to quit. As long as I feel like she chooses me, that she wants to be with me, then I will believe that regardless of who she sees out and about, that she will only have room in her heart for me. It is widely agreed that a woman only has room in her heart to love one man, as long as her actions show me i am that one, then I will support her doing things she is passionate about.