Originally Posted By: coffee_


I feel your pain ... All I have is suspicions no proof ... I couldn't imagine having an actual proven affair ... And not loosing my mind or telling her to hit the f'n road.
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Yeah, I was in Limbo for the longest time. We are working out the details of splitting the finances. All so messed up, I was thinking that just over a year ago we used the same toothbrush...hard to start a real separation, and to move forward with the D. I have proof of two ongoing affairs, she refuses to talk about it and has tried to lie her way into me thinking it is only one, an EA with someone she met 2 years ago. When I nailed her for it she denied, took some time and came up with the lamest lie I have ever heard. I sometimes wonder how such an intelligent woman could be so stupid.
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Mine was so stupid that her exit plan after announcing she wanted to separate was for me to leave... With no Recon on table , why the heck would I give up so much? That I would continue to pay for everything just as if I was there... That's f'n stupid!
She wanted cake with extra frosting and someone to feed it to her...


Me:47 XW 43
D15 D10
Together 17 married 15
Bd : Mother's Day 2015
Sep :July 2015
Divorce final October 2016