Hi Painter, sorry if I haven't fully understood where things are up to and how they work over there. We have gone down the settlement route with a clean break - then your life and funds are your own if the D finalises.

I know KML always posts that she regrets going down the alimony route as her H thought he paid 25% of his salary for years and begrudged it (it was more like 10% I think...)

For us, we looked at our whole assets and took off what we each came in with. We then divided the rest 50/50. It worked out quite well for me as I had bought assets in and XH had a very successful 12 years in his business when we were together (Moi as background support maybe?? grin)

Anyway, do press forward with whatever suits you best financially and take care. Glad you have had a better few days.

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus