What is going on here and what am I doing wrong?

[mvg]

The only way I can try and explain it is that XW didn't want a boyfriend, she wanted (wants) a new family. I'm not part of that picture obviously.

OM has two girls that my boys sometimes already call their sisters. Just this morning while watching a TV show, S5 identified the characters aloud as himself, his brother, his "sisters", mom and OM.

S5 tells me what XW says, what X-inlaws say to him and I'm not even mentioned.

S5 was born 10 weeks early and I was by his side in the hospital the entire time. S5 asked me recently if I was there or if OM was there, he "wasn't sure"

S5 tells me about all of the things XW and OM used to do as kids...because Xinlaws have told him. Xinlaws are best friends with OM parents so this is a blessing to all of them.

XW was giving my boys Christmas presents from OM and his FAMILY just weeks after bomb drop.

XW has taken S5 away from school events to attend OM daughter's events.

I think you get the idea....