Thanks, all, I'm happy to be able to report some good things and feelings in between all the misery. Jim, I am honored to be included in your prayers and appreciate it very much.
Phoebe, I hope you will soon be able to report something similar. It was unexpected but very encouraging.
I am second-guessing myself a little because I worry that I'm happy because H is not as happy as he perhaps expected to be, and that he misses me... I don't want to be happy about his lack of happiness, but it does make me feel like he is not as emotionally 'off' as I thought he was when he did this.
H agreed to change the agreement to let me keep 2/3 of the alimony if I remarry. I think he understood that it would keep me from moving on in an unfair way (alimony doesn't increase if he gets a partner), and it puts an undue financial burden on any potential future partner. It's definitely better than the current provision!
Ginger, I know it's common, but I think it's very sexist for both men and women. It conveys the attitude that women (who usually receive alimony) are to be taken care of financially by men. I wish now that I had it structured as settlement payments instead of alimony.
I reached my goal last night so I have less work to do today. I think.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
