Lost at the moment

[Zephyr]

doodle, i think I understand what you are trying to say. I will disagree with a part of it and say emphatically that it is never too late for boundaries.

we are setting them up for us. we make those to protect ourselves from further harm. the consequences, well that is if someone violates our tenants of behaviour we will not tolerate in out life.

we are.not setting boundaries to control someone else's behavior, because after all they are grown ups and may chose to do as they see fit.

so, this is absolutely where we need to start.

if (as I believe you are trying to say) no more being a doormat. I agree

soo lfm, today is your new day.
treat yourself kindly!