In the UK - PT 18 'Dark O'Clock'

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This is an SOS to sandi2 or anybody who can offer serious practical advice in the next few hours.

My SD called today to say that my W has gone in to hospital to have a hernia removed and a 'tummy tuck' at the same time. She has left my two youngest children with her and has not told anybody (including family relatives etc.) what she is having done, in case anybody judges her about it.

Obviously, we are in serious MLC country here. Whilst I was aware that she was having a quotation for surgery, I assumed that it had been halted. In one hand I'm furious that she didn't tell me so I could secure my children's safety (whilst my SD is 20, she is not naturally maternal) but on the other hand I am sad that she couldn't feel she could tell me this information. I guess she feels I would judge her. How did she think she was going to conceal a major operation like that?

So, what to do? Part of me wants to scream and yell at her about her apparent lack of judgement, regarding the kids. The other half of me wants to go and see her to tell her that I'm not angry with her and if she feels that depressed with her looks, that she need not worry.

I don't know what to do really - a bit paralysed.