Those are great points rose888. I guess im just reacting to everything internally ~ shes in a bad mood its my fault that kindof thing.
The other thing is shes never said she wants to work at our marriage, infact she has said the opposite. So that plays on my mind abit.
I dont actually know if she wants to spend time with me or just feels its the right thing to do. We have not had any alone time, always with Son or family so its never been about us.
Sometimes we do what we feel is right and then the feelings follow.
I don't know if my H wants to be with me, either. But he's here and trying, so I'm going to give him all the time he is willing to take, in the hope that the feelings will return.
In your sitch, where she needs to get over an EA, I would assume it's normal for it to take longer for feelings to return. It might be that she is doing all she can at the moment, that just staying IS her best effort.
I know it's agonizing. I keep reminding myself to take the long view.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
