Lost at the moment

[lfm]

Thanks for the thoughts guys.

I do agree I need to establish a line in the sand with her as far as the relationship with the OM is concerned. One of the mistakes I made early on was telling her I would give her time to figure things out and she put a time frame around moving into the new house on it.

I'm evaluating where I want to draw that line and how I want to communicate enforcing it once we get into the house. I feel like since I agreed to that time frame that I need to stick with it.

Zaphyr - no offense on the term cuckhold. Technically any of us who have wifes that have had an affair would meet the technical definition of a cuckhold, however, it is definitely not the fetish for me that it is most commonly associated with.

PacLove - I definitely can't trust or believe anything my W says or does at this point because she has said one thing and done the opposite so many times since the BD, but see it as an opportunity to try and learn what she sees in the OM, if there are things I can do differently in terms communicating with her and like I said, I've been given a lot of details which helps me not spend time speculating what she's been doing. At least it helped early on. Now that I'm dettaching, it doesn't seem to do anything one way or the other.

doodler - I agree it is a PA, it's just odd to me that she can go for weeks without actually seeing him. To me if you are that enamored/addicted to something that the parties involved would want to spend every possible moment together, so that's why I said I think it goes back and forth. Clearly the PA portion of it is not over since she saw him last week, but seemed like it had moved back to an EA prior to that as they had not seen each other for over a month.