Hi LFM, i have some questions to think about...if you would.
Where is your line in the sand here with your wife's ongoing affair?
At what point does her disrespectful behavior cross your non-negotiable boundary...what will you do.
in most cases, i too have a soft heart. i really like your thoughts when you post to others threads. i too error on the side of being compassionate and tend to give advice in that direction. i am not sure i understand your position here. it is one thing to ignore an affair and live your life, and not support your wife's disrespect, but you seem to be...how do i saw this...telling your wife it is ok.
there is a difference. one is saying that your wife is a grown woman, can make her own choices and you cannot change that. you are going to live your life.
the other is to say, i do not mind that you are disrespecting me and this marriage, that this ongoing behavior is OK in my book...and that it doesn't bother me. i believe there is a term for a man in this position. it is a cuckold. you are basically telling your wife that you are fine with that humiliation.
are you?
sorry if that comes off as vulgar...it is the best term i could think of to fit the feelings that i get when i have read your thread.
