Did you read "The Rationale Male"? I highly suggest you do. Brought me out of my fog of being and LBS. There are a lot of good things in there that will bring your confidence back as a male.
My STBX still spews and continues to get angry and wants to control my time with the boys. She still doesn't get that she doesn't have that right anymore. I say nothing or just say I understand and that completely sets her off even more. There is no winning with them unless you do exactly as they say. Get off the ride and just hang up next time. Just sending some tough love your way.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...