From what I am getting from our conversations, she knows she needs to end the relationship, she recognizes the damage that she is doing and has shown remorse for everything she's done/doing. But with that said, she also recognizes the addiction is so strong and that she's not strong enough to end it.
lfm,
I was going to ask you if your wife felt any remorse or uneasiness when she talks about the OM, but you answered my question.
If I were having an affair (I never have), I think I'd have great difficulty talking to my wife about the OW as long as it was an active affair. It just seems to go so far across moral and ethical boundaries that I don't think I could do it.
I guess that's what really baffles me is that it seems like she feels comfortable talking to you about the OM. And I understand that she's in a fog, but it's so brazen that I can't fully comprehend the situation. I can't get my mind wrapped around it.
I'm sorry, I don't mean to be crass, I'm just trying to grasp the situation. It's something that I'm unable to resolve internally.
