Detachment, anxiety and the end of limbo 2

[Sotto]

Hi Phoebe, I understand you not wanting to go to the house alone, and I've had the same situation, living away from our house and needing to go up every now and then to check on things. Each time I went, I hated it. It had gone from being a 'safe' family home to the scene of our marital implosion and I didn't/don't feel 'safe' there. Plus when I would go, I would discover something horrible - like my photos taken out of a family collage and replaced with others - ugh...

Last time I went (hopefully the last trip ever...) two friends came with me and it did help. We only stayed for 90 mins or so, but I got the rest of my stuff out and it was enough time to check things over. I wonder if a good friend might help in this regard? The other thing we have is our former pet sitter who pops in once a week to pick up post and check on things. She actually picked up a leak a few months ago and we were able to sort that out before it became a bigger problem.

So, if you didn't want to go, perhaps you could engage someone to drop in for you? No great rush anyway, you can always make these decisions when you feel ready.

Hope you have a good day Sweetie xx