Chapter 3. Let the detachment begin

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Cristy: I really do struggle with being a nice, a good example, etc and the strong no nonsense attitude that DB requires. If an acquaintance was in my house without a phone etc, I would do the same thing.

For now, I'm trying to stick with the latter. We were supposed to meet tonight at a neutral location to go over kids stuff, money, etc. She was going to let me know what time, etc - no news yet. Here is where I struggle. If it was a friend or client I would send a reminder email/text, so that I could plan accordingly and they may appreciate the reminder. But since she is my W/STBXW and I'm committed to going dark and being detachment - I won't.

But, there will be fall out. Decisions that need to be made, assigning of duties, etc. If I do them without her, I'm being controlling etc. But, if I wait to hear from her I'm being a door mat.

What do I do?