Lost at the moment

[lfm]

doodler - I totally agree with and understand you comments about cake eating. I've chosen to let that slide a bit until we get into the new house at which time I will be establishing some new boundries that I am not able to enforce in the small apartment we are currently living in.

Boundries such as needing to figure out where she is going to sleep because she can't sleep in our bed while this continues. (currently there is no where else for her to sleep other than the marital bed).

It all goes back to the patience I mentioned earlier. There's some things I have specifically chosed not to take action on because we don' want the kids to know anything at this point. Howver, I have enforced that if she wants to talk to OM that she needs to leave the apartment and have asked her to not text him if the kids are around. I can't be certain that she always follows that, but generally will leave the room the kids are in or leave the apartment if she is going to text him.

It's all a work in progress, some of which will become easier and some of which will become more challenging once the environment changes.