Awkward situation

[Tate]

Once again, Sandi2, you nailed it. She is not the person I knew...the person who would never cheat on me.

I guess the only to force a stop and ensure a stop to the affair is to expand who knows about it. Is it enough for me to confront my BIL, do I tell my wife she needs to have a sit down with my sister, or do I just tell my sister? Each of these would end the EA for good, but some will have additional fallout. Either case involving my sister will have the most fallout, of course.

On another topic, my wife and I have always had schedules of sorts during the week. I exercise 2 days during the week while she takes over family duty, she does the other 3 days. This doesn't leave much time for me doing anything else...basically, I have always worked, exercised, done projects around the house, or spent time with the kids. For me to add nights out with friends, for example, this will prevent my wife from doing things in her typical schedule. This will make her mad. Is this okay to do?

Of course I thought of the irony of her getting mad at me for not relieving her of family care when she wanted a divorce and custody of the kids...where's her free time then..