Yes, it's a weird dynamic in that she won't talk about the affair with anyone else, but will vent for me. In some ways it's been helpful becuase I don't have to speculate what's going on, but it's weird to have her tell me what's been happening and what she's thinking.
From my end of it, I'm not thinking about those conversations from the perspective of her husband, just as her friend. I've been able to detach enough to be able to do that. In some ways I think it will speed up the healing process if we ever get to the point of reconcilling as I'll already have the details I would have wanted to know/ask about.
There's a lot of things about my situation that I think are strange/unique, with this being the biggest oddity, but it has opened the lines of communication between us and we have better communication now because of this than we ever have.
_____________________ Me:44 W:44 Together 22 Married 21 S 19 D 17, 15, 15. 7 EA/PA suspected 3/30/2016 EA/PA confirmed 4/5/2016 ILYBINILWY 4/5/2016 WW asked for Divorce 5/8/2016 (WW has backtracked)