I had another appointment with my IC yesterday. I don't think I would want to go with to her for MC if I had to. But she is working on make ME a happier person and I know that's going to help me in the long run all the way around.
You know, not just the training for MC vs IC is different, the techniques, and approach to their clients differ heavily on whether or it's for IC or MC. My IC also is very SELF focused. She said after our first appointment, "I appreciate your details in why you're here, but next time, I don't want you to mention the marriage, or your wife at all"... she knew this was impossible, but I get the point. IC is for IC, MC is for MC, they are different for a reason
Originally Posted By: RDS
My homework I have to do is make 5 goals to do just for me. I'm having a hard time coming up with 5 goals. I've got 3 down (start a class, get a tattoo, run the Ravenel Bridge).
You're gonna get a tattoo!? That's on my list of things to do too. I'm uncertain of what I want, something meaningful, something strong, and maybe something humerous too. Please don't get barbed wire, or a tribal tattoo. haha.
Originally Posted By: RDS
She responded immediately and suggested a place neither of us had been to and agreed on a time (this Thur at 1 PM).
Wow, that was easy!? You're right in trying to 'navigate the minefield' though. Everytime my W and I meet or cross paths, she has over nine thousand questions she wants to drill me on. I'm not sure how others think about this, but it helps to think, and practice how to respond, and what you want to say (yep, I've done it in the mirror over and over, and still reacted badly to the exact questions I prepared for).
Originally Posted By: RDS
She loved Halloween and the thought of getting rid of it seems to symbolize the death of our MR. Of course I could look at it as a way of getting rid of the old to start with the new. I may junk it and tell her I sold it and give her a "share" of the money. I have to figure out what I'm going to do.
One of these comments make me say, "I like the way you're thinking, buddy!" ...you know which one it is.
Lastly, I'm sorry to inform you of this, but I'm not currently accepting new clients for counseling. Maybe in the future when things slow down, I'll let you know if anything opens up!
You're right in trying to 'navigate the minefield' though. Everytime my W and I meet or cross paths, she has over nine thousand questions she wants to drill me on. I'm not sure how others think about this, but it helps to think, and practice how to respond, and what you want to say (yep, I've done it in the mirror over and over, and still reacted badly to the exact questions I prepared for).
