Hi DBer's - Could really use some guidance and support today. Have been a real mess last couple days, uncontrollable crying, even called the local crisis line and have been in touch with a place that does codependency healing the Bridge to Recovery in Tennessee... Got an email from my H yesterday that he has found a place to live - at least it's not in a far away state as he had mentioned as a possibility a couple weeks ago - and he said he wants to come and get some of his things from the house this friday and thinks it's better if I'm not here. He also said - he was thinking of me and how difficult this transition must be for me and that it has been for him. I am REALLY CONFUSED as what is best thing to do in terms of DBing...be his friend, ? What I WANT is to see him and tell him that I will not try to process the past or talk about M or issues or future etc. Need to get a dialogue going, as that is what is making this harder for me is not seeing him at all. So friggin' sad, frustrated, angry and lonely. Part of me still just doesn't get wtf is going on and I know I won't get to know for a long time most likely as that is not a conversation he is likely to want to have in the near future. What has worked for you in this situation? The thought of coming back to the house and having more of his things gone, makes me want to die of heart ache. Any words of support today would be SO welcome! Thank you!!!
