Well it has been over 6 years since I last posted on this thread. It has been over 7 since BD and I have been divorced for 4 and a half years. My father passed away 2 and a half years ago and I have been dating for 2 years.
I just completed the three event trifecta with my ex. Two graduations and a wedding. I can safely say she is still deep in crisis and I see no signs that anything will ever change. Her father passed away recently and she sold our house about three years ago and eventually moved to florida to be with him and her mother. Still no signs of an OM and at this point I can only guess she is relationship averse.
I guess we are at a point where we tolerate each other. As I had more conversations with her in the past month than I have had with her in 7 years. She really has vanished in the relationship sense. We only spoke about superficial things although she did say some crazy things and spoke highly of my relatives. She apparently misses them but realizes that when you get divorced you dont keep your exes cousins. Of course they were all nice to her which is more than I can say about her own relatives who did not want to show up because of some of the antics she and her mother displayed to them in the past couple of years.
I think that overall you can not under estimate the amount of TIME that a crisis can take.
I continue to move forward and am very happy in my new life. I have lots going on and much to look forward to.
So glad this board helped me through some very difficult times. And can only say that the GIFT of TIME that is bestowed on each newbie is very real.
