Been reflecting on the Sandi2 advice that I need to stay away from the house. Up until now, I enjoyed going to the house, spending time in the garden playing games and doing bath time. My W seemed ok with it all. Now that I have my own place at last, she wants to change the arrangement and have me take them to my place instead as she wants more space and feels that we have been spending to much time together. I thought I was coping ok and even felt like I was moving on until she decided to put the wall up again.
It seemed ok whilst she needed me to help her buy a new car and to give her support with the kids and yes, it's all about what she wants....she has even been encouraging me to look for someone else if I need female companionship as she still believes I want to save the marriage...as if that's a bad thing?!
Another factor, is that her sister has just separated from her husband too adding to the problems.
She says we have a friendship and cares about me, knows I am good natured and a good father. She also knows she has issues but has not shown any willing to attend therapy...maybe I should take the hint but it still feels so wrong to me what's happening. It is hard to completely let go.
I gotta keep breathing. Because tomorrow the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring?
