Detachment, anxiety and the end of limbo 2

[Sotto]

Hi Phoebe, yes I think if you can say something like that to your Dad, that would be good. I had a recent exchange with my Dad. Something difficult had happened one weekend (I can't recall what now!) and I was telling him about it and saying it was traumatic and how upset I felt. My Dad cut in brusquely and said something like 'well it's all done now.' In a final sort of tone. I realised that he wasn't really able to be there with me whilst I expressed that emotion.

However, there have been many other ways (more practical than emotional...and some emotional) where he has been there for me and I appreciate that.

For sure I would take steps to pack up your H's stuff if that's what you want to do. I would also hate looking at it every day. What if you packed it all up and told him - I've boxed this stuff up, do you want me to ship it to X or do Y? He may even say - chuck it - in which case you could drop it at a thrift store maybe? Do whatever is going to help you move foreward and reclaim your living space as your own I would say.

Have a good day xx