Stages of grief

[Painter]

Phoebe, eggs are great but you do need something else...

If you want something super easy, a mashed banana and two whipped eggs blended together make fantastic pancakes. You can add some flour if you want more of a dough.

I sent H an e-mail last night and asked him to agree to a small, but important change to the separation agreement. I feel it is so very unfair that I will lose alimony if I get remarried while he can just move on unencumbered, and marry OW as soon as we are divorced without any hindrance. It will keep me from moving on. The alimony I get is supposed to be a long-term settlement for what I have lost by marrying H and what I had to walk away from - not just to get me on my own feet.

He kept everything and I have nothing. There weren't any assets to divide, due to some really bad financial decisions on his part during the recession. But he has a home (that I remodeled with my inheritance) and his job and his friends and OW. Everything is the same for him except the woman living there.

I'm living in my son's guest room and my entire life is turned upside down, and I own nothing but my clothes and the car, which currently needs more repairs than it's worth.

I think he should release me from that sexist, unfair contingency. He initially wanted it also if I just lived with someone, but I got that taken out beforehand. Why should a new man in my life be financially responsible for me?

He is sick again, worse than he has been before. It's a stress-related illness that comes on periodically. I'm not surprised that he is stressed and gets sick - he's put himself in a very stressful situation. I doubt that he sees the connection.