I would love to write my WAW an apology letter, but I wrote her a heartfelt 19 page letter a month ago. It went over the good and bad of our marriage. I freely admitted my shortcomings.
Hey RDS, hope you're doing okay. I haven't been on the forums for a while, and decided to check in to see how things were with everyone, and provide an update to my sitch as well.
I snagged this quote off qt's thread... in regards to the "apology letter" or "lrt letter"... my coach, and another person I worked on this (ultimate husband - family ministries), was very adamant that any letter of this type should never be more than 2 pages. I know how you felt when you wrote your letter. My first attempt at writing one to my W was about 8 pages, and then I sent it over to be critiqued, and was immediately told to toss it due to length.
It can't come across as a homework assignment. it should not include any 'explanations' of why you did XYZ, or ways that 'things could have been different if..." etc. the letter should be 4-8 paragraphs, no more than 2 pages, and include only that you understand what you've done, how you own responsibility for it, how it hurt your spouse, and possibly how you're seeking professional help to better understand these things, nothing more.
sorry to just chime in like this, but like I said, I've been away from forums for almost two weeks trying to self absorb and focus on what I need to (I was getting consumed by this site)...
I'm going to read up on your sitch here shortly, and follow up with something that may be more relevant that this post.
