What should I be Doing (piecing 6)

[Stormchaser]

If my W could write down how she thought, I'd think it would be exactly what yours said.

I, too, struggle with my W and OM working together. Your W echoed what mine has said verbally to me. My W has worked her ASS off to get to where she is in her profession and is finally reaping the financial rewards. For her to quit (which I believe she would) would cause a lot of financial hardship, as well as having to start at the bottom of the ladder at 50.

Odd how we are similar - I also went through a devastating depression to which therapy nor meds worked. She tried, but I pushed her away by curling up in a fetal position, only coming out to work and eat. I ignored everyone - her, the kids, my job performance suffered. And yes, she says she should've tried harder. The worse she felt, the more the OM played her.

That's not to say she had no choice. She knows she could've said no. I'm lucky in that once discovered, she immediately sought therapy for herself and both of us.

The irony was, finding out about the affair ripped me out of my depression and steered me into recovery. Our MC says the affair was likely a wake up call for both of us.

Your W's letter has helped me reconsider my stance on them working together. I do believe they are no longer communicating, she repeatedly says how much she loathes his presence. Maybe down the road HE will lose his job there, which would be my dream.