A lot to process, feel free to take your time as you say. If your wife wants to go into it before you're ready don't hesitate to just let her know that you appreciate her sharing her feelings and you need more time to process things. I wish I had done that more before some of my bigger conversations.
Overall I see a lot positive there.
One random thought I had while reading the post:
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I want to get though the Academy and graduate and then I have every intention of asking my Captain if there’s any way that I can transfer to another station and what that process is.
I don't see why that (inquiring) would need to wait; As I recall the Captain seemed pretty understanding of the difficult situation so I wouldn't think getting such information ahead of time would be frowned upon. He doesn't seem to want unnecessary drama any more than you guys do.
Hope your day is going well Coconut!
Me, WW - Upper 30s BD - Apr 1 2016 EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away) Confronted wife about EA - May 17 Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11