Sandi2 - Here are two questions from my last thread.
I'm guessing I should stick with the MC as it was my idea and he does not take any nonsense from her. That's why she quit before. So I'll stick with it - but I will not bring up reconciliation at all. Is that the right approach? I don't want to quit it because I should stick with my consistent actions right?
Not sure if this is what you wanted me to answer, but are the only questions I saw in the post.
Regarding the MC.........what is the main goal of being there? Is it to reconcile the M, or to learn how to communicate with each other, or how to co-parent, or do you even know?
I believe in sticking to consistent actions if they are the right actions to take. If they are working, stick with it.
I find it a little odd that you refer to your feelings for your W as an addiction. I'm not saying you are incorrect. For someone who doesn't seem to desire his W back home, the word addiction just doesn't fit for me, but whatever.
Have you read about codependency?
Maybe you've already done this at some time or another, but I suggest you google "people who want to fix everything" and read a little of what comes up when you type those words.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
