I think they are reasonable needs. You want her to let you know she cares for you and by actions and investment in the MR.
However, she may be following your lead because she is scared to take the lead. She may not know exactly where you are, or be worried about scaring you off. She might feel its touchy territory and will reciprocate if you lead, but might be scared to lead.
Maybe letting what you need be known is not a bad idea. Not details. Just that if she took the lead in your R every now and then it would make you feel loved and give you comfort she wants to work on the MR. something to explore in MC, perhaps.
Seems to me you are good at this R stuff. You are making a sincere effort. She might want to also, she just might scared.
