Update: There is a status conference today, Ls only. I am not really sure what is being decided since we have not agreed on anything. I am still in the home and blessed with unfettered access to my children. Something that I will lose eventually. So I am making the most of it even though in-house S is terrible - for me, for my children, probably for my W as well, but you would never know it.
As I mentioned in my previous thread, I have lost confidence in my L. I will be calling another one today.
pinn| I have not joined a running club. I looked into it, but they only run on Saturdays. which is my Sabbath. I thought, though not very seriously, about starting my own.
V| I am calling L today. This time I mean it. I have not until now partly because I was busy but also because I was reticent.
SunnyB| I am not usually this ignorant, but for the life of me I could not find Zelda New and the Hobbit on Facebook. Am I missing something? Do I need to have it spelled out for me? Is it "Zelda New and the Hobbit", or "Zelda New" and "the hobbit"? I'm hopeless
JellyB| So right! inaction/lack of action based on fear is not working for me. Part of my problem is that until now my W has not been belligerent or aggressive. She is actually totally passive. Yet there are so many triggers in the home. Every time I see a new thong underwear in the laundry pile. Every time I see a new piece of jewelry. Every time she gets a text. Every time she goes out. All of these, in the another context could be construed as normal behaviors. But in the present context, they make me sick to my stomach. I don't want to see any of it anymore. She has a bracelet that says "She believed she could, so she did". I know that one of the DBers has that in their signature, but when I see it on Ws wrist, I just want to vomit. She has a necklace with the first letter of her name on it. Coincidentally, it is also the first letter of OMs name. It is like she is flaunting it in plain site, right in front of my face. It is torture for me. Yet, despite this, I remain civil. Very cold, sometimes passive-aggressive, but mostly civil. How long can I do this?
