Thank you Zuess. I am doing well at detaching, she is good at drawing me back in but I am working on defining my own boundaries and not letting that happen. And starting to create distance. Finance distance, emotional distance (I quit texting back when she texts me) We are in the same house but I am still able to create distance, she is helpful with that because she is never around. I am getting used to being alone, I just spend time with my son, way more than I ever used to. Again I am working on the understanding and acceptance of what my new life is, and what it had really been this last 10 years. Looking in the mirror and figuring out my fault in this relationship. I will use this reflection to help me in my current relationships, future relationships, all relationships. I can be selfish - I think we all can to a certain degree.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
