Chapter 3. Let the detachment begin

[bigybiz]

So Sunday night she sends a text messaging saying she wants to come say goodnight to the boys. I ignored it until it was "too late" after S10 night time ritual. I replied and told her phone is better. I then was not about to sit around waiting for her to reply and/or call. So I called her. We passed the phone around. I thought that was a reasonable boundary/accommodation. Over the past couple of weeks she has not respected the routine I have S10 on. I'm guessing she thinks I'm trying to control her and or him.

She did tell me she would like to use the van on Monday so she can move to her new place. I said yes, I was not using it.

She showed up came in the front door - said hello to D20 and I and took the key. Then she "snuck" around the side and said hello to S15 & S10, in the back yard. Again, she has this idea I'm trying to keep her from the kids. If she had just said - I'm going to say Hi I would say fine.

She returned the van at 10pm, I was outside by chance. I moved my motorcycle so she could park easily. I volunteered to take the van key and said goodnight.

How did I do? Was I nice but still enforce boundaries? Did I prevent her from eating cake?