Some days are better than others

[EDF]

I think there may have been a misunderstanding; Just to be clear, when she said "I love you" it had seemed genuine to me. My "love you" response to her I think felt pretty emotionless/perfunctory.

I agree it seemed like temp checking... her wanting to make sure I was still in her pocket so she can take her damn time "deciding" or "cake eating" or whatever with no pressure or risk of loss.

From that standpoint, I think my response was kinda luke warm. Not as bad as it could've been since I didn't gush all over her, or get excited, or go for the reassuring hug. But certainly not perfect... just not sure how to handle it better.

I do want her to feel like she's losing me (and hoping my tepid response didn't interfere with that too much), but I don't want to discourage her from making efforts either. It is possible I'm still being too considerate of her feelings. I think a frank honest I-dont-care-how-it-makes-her-feel response from me would have been something like "I'm not feeling it right now." Would that have been too harsh or just harsh enough?