Yes, Deb. Focusing on the positives is GREAT! I think when you focus on the positives and discard the rest as garbage, your PMA is up and then you portray a happier person. That happy person is attractive and fun, and that makes spouse come around more often. Less likely to be hesitant around us, more likely to have fun. As the fun days and memories increase, spouse comes out of their protective shell more, and open more to us.
