Detachment is a funny thing. Most people on this forum seem to think of it as something that's explicit; something that you make happen by actively detaching. I read statements like "I'm detaching" or "I need to work on detaching." In my opinion, detachment isn't something that you actively seek, it's the end result of moving on with your life and working on improving yourself.
I think too many of us spin our wheels trying to actively detach when that energy is better spent on doing things that make us happy and help us build a new life (we call that GAL). Detachment is the end result of our personal growth, it's not a goal in and of itself.
I think most of us would probably benefit from forgetting about detachment and focus in fun and fulfillment. Detaching will take care of itself.
As usual, that's just my opinion; I could be wrong.
In some ways I agree. But I think it's more of a learned behavior than an end result. I think you can do a lot of fun and fulfillment, but then still be attached in many ways. I believe that the things you describe are essential parts of becoming detached, but I do think there is a little more to it.
There are little steps you can set for yourself to work on becoming more detached. For example, it might be difficult to say "I wont send my spouse a 'good morning' text ever again." But it's a lot easier to say I wont send one today. And as long as you can say that a few days in a row, after a couple of weeks, you wont have the urge to send one. Setting a goal like this, to me, is "working on becoming detached".
With that said, there needs to be something in your life to fill that void. You cant just empty your life and expect to be OK without filling it with something else. Thats where I think your fun and fulfillment comes in.
