You've been given excellent advice by the posters. I agree, that if he does come to you and wants to talk, just listen. Do not offer up opinions/suggestions unless he asks for them. Do not agree to any financial conditions that he may present...just listen. If he's frustrated, say "I'm sorry you feel that way" or if he presents some recommendations on how to divide up assets say "I'll need to think about that" and just let the subject die down a bit. Nothing has to be decided there and then about the divorce. Once you know what is on his mind w/respect to the divorce, seek legal representation and go from there.
Sometimes, when we aren't sure what to do, the best thing to do is nothing, i.e., sit quietly and the answers will come.
I do hope that you are feeling better today.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
