Divorced and so grateful

[RosaLinda]

I have been pondering many things since posting all that yesterday -- mainly character flaws in myself. Basically that I am a codependent enabler-fixer extraordinaire. Wouldn't a normal woman have told them both to go f*ck themselves and to never darken her doorway again? The time for STFU has long since passed. There is something seriously wrong with me -- I cry when I am angry, am quick to assume that something bad was all my fault and that no one likes me, and never want to hurt someone's feelings no matter how much they have hurt mine.
Strange, serious character flaws; lots to think about I wonder how many LBSs share these shortcomings.

I have to ask questions because I'm curious as h@ck. What does the Russian tart look like? Did they act like lovey dovey people crushing on each other?

No Job, they do not appear at all lovey-dovey. RT is Korean-Russian, from Kazakhstan, she's about 5 feet tall and very slight. She is 62, same as my ex, and has the build of a young boy. One of those Asian women who are not pretty, but also never show their age. This was pretty surprising to me, as one of my ex's original major reasons given for no longer loving me at bomb drop was that I was too short, and she's a good 2" shorter than I am. Strange, but then again, my ex is very very strange....LOL

I've never seen them touch each other, or gaze fondly at each other, or even sit side by side on the couch. But touch was never ex's love language; I guess that never changes.

RT also told me that ex does NOT want to marry her, and that he wants to just live as friends, but he is marrying her so she can get a green card so she can stay in this country and get a job. I can't believe he told her that. How romantic.

I am now wondering if by "just living as friends" RT meant living in a sex-starved marriage like mine was for the past 20 years. And I wonder if she is sad or relieved....

One can sort of accept that one's husband has left her for a sexy blonde bombshell, but a skinny crabby 62 year old? It sort of boggles the mind!