Hmmm, maybe you could throw in some very measured words of affirmation once in a while? Something like, 'Thanks. The kids look like they're having fun.'

My x's love language is WOA and sincere thanks for things he's done seems to work well with him.

Don't initiate or pursue but when she reaches out, acknowledge and affirm?

I hear you about having time off as a couple. I should have done that too.

Should have. Could have. Would have.

I guess we'll just have to file this away for future use.

You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.